If you have daughters, want to have daughters or are on the verge of having a son-in-law, you owe it to yourself to read the following. Regardless of what you may be told there are only two types of fathers of the bride. Those who pay for receptions and those who are glad they did not have to pay. I speak with some authority here as both of my daughters had rather large weddings and big, boisterous receptions.
As the father of the bride your responsibility includes the following: Shut Up, Show Up and Pay Up. Remember those three terms and you will maintain a happy relationship with your wife, your daughter, your family and your daughter’s new family. It ain’t brain surgery.
When your future son-in-law’s mother wants to publish the wedding invitation in the local small town newspaper don’t panic. I told my daughter and future son-in-law that I would have two no-neck thugs dressed in tuxes checking invitations at the door of the reception. This comment cost me in ways you do not want to know.
As father of the bride you must meet and greet all the attendees at the reception. This involves a lot of handshaking (Grinning & Grabbing) and you do not want to know where some of those hands have been lately. You also will have the opportunity to hug all of the ladies. This is a two-edged sword. Hugging the young and well endowed females is fun as they often wear low cut dresses and enjoy full frontal hugs. Your friends and entire family will watch your every move and report every indiscretion. The other side of the sword is the hugs with the older ladies who use too much perfume and press you close to their aging bosoms while telling you how beautiful the bride and your wife look.
The pay up portion is the most painful. You will look at every half eaten tidbit and bemoan the fact that someone took one bite from a $5.00 hors’d’ourve. Your friends will slap you on the back and rave over the fact that you are financing their drinking binge. The 4 bottles of wine you ordered for 400 guests runs out in 30 seconds and by the end of the evening your alcohol count is at 90 bottles of wine and 3 kegs of beer plus a few mixed drinks. The band informs you that they played an hour over the contract and they want more money and then your daughter runs to you with open arms, gives you a kiss and says thank you for a wonderful evening. More wine anyone!!!